Yesterday, I drove my mother to her friend's house in Lukut
They chat about all sort of things
and Aunty Ain said something that 'slap' me right on my face
I'm not sure how to describe about myself
but one thing that I am sure of is I tends to care too much
caring too much resulting in wanting to know things,
which sometimes is more than what I should know
I quote her word here: "...certain things we should left it as it is. let it be unknown to us because it is best that way. it is not known to us for a reason(s). Let that be in Allah's knowledge and we continue with ours..."
She was referring to something else apparently but I feel that I could and should relate to myself
Knowing what you need to know vs knowing what you want to know has a very thin line
One can be mistaken for another.
I don't think listing things into category would help (time consuming, not practical). I may need to spend at least a week to list out things that I ENCOUNTER and decide which falls into which category. Hence, i'll leave it to you to decide yourself and as for me, I'll (I hope that I can oblige to it EVERYTIME I face the 'kinda situation') ask myself / practice the following before I proceed with my curiosity:
1) Identify the situation - what should I know?
2) Is it related to me - as a human, friend, family, citizen?
3) If Q2 is yes, what is the impact of knowing it?
4) If Q3 answer is any one of the following:
- I need to know to because it's basic necessity / life know-how (e.g., where the bank is located, where is the nearest police station etc etc)
- I need to know to enhance my knowledge
- I need to know to prevent the matter from worsen / safe someone's life
- I need to know so I can help a friend / family
or other related answer (EXCEPT but not limited to - just because).
Knowing things "just because" (saja nak ambil tahu) is certainly a big NO.
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.
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I know we (I, personally) tends to feel that others' life story should be known to us.
Where in fact, it doesn't.
Especially if it would lead to talking behind the subject's (subject herein can also refer to people) back.
If the subject willingly or delight-ly share their story for the sake of sharing their happiness/ sadness/ laughter etc., that is another story.
If they are not, that's the cue for you to draw the line there and then.
Nowadays, due to the 'culture' or 'norm' (or whatever reason there is) drawing the line would be difficult for people like me
but we need to start somewhere (and continuously try) to limit ourselves from excessive curiosity over unnecessary / unrelated things.
They chat about all sort of things
and Aunty Ain said something that 'slap' me right on my face
I'm not sure how to describe about myself
but one thing that I am sure of is I tends to care too much
caring too much resulting in wanting to know things,
which sometimes is more than what I should know
I quote her word here: "...certain things we should left it as it is. let it be unknown to us because it is best that way. it is not known to us for a reason(s). Let that be in Allah's knowledge and we continue with ours..."
She was referring to something else apparently but I feel that I could and should relate to myself
Knowing what you need to know vs knowing what you want to know has a very thin line
One can be mistaken for another.
I don't think listing things into category would help (time consuming, not practical). I may need to spend at least a week to list out things that I ENCOUNTER and decide which falls into which category. Hence, i'll leave it to you to decide yourself and as for me, I'll (I hope that I can oblige to it EVERYTIME I face the 'kinda situation') ask myself / practice the following before I proceed with my curiosity:
1) Identify the situation - what should I know?
2) Is it related to me - as a human, friend, family, citizen?
3) If Q2 is yes, what is the impact of knowing it?
4) If Q3 answer is any one of the following:
- I need to know to because it's basic necessity / life know-how (e.g., where the bank is located, where is the nearest police station etc etc)
- I need to know to enhance my knowledge
- I need to know to prevent the matter from worsen / safe someone's life
- I need to know so I can help a friend / family
or other related answer (EXCEPT but not limited to - just because).
Knowing things "just because" (saja nak ambil tahu) is certainly a big NO.
.
.
.
I know we (I, personally) tends to feel that others' life story should be known to us.
Where in fact, it doesn't.
Especially if it would lead to talking behind the subject's (subject herein can also refer to people) back.
If the subject willingly or delight-ly share their story for the sake of sharing their happiness/ sadness/ laughter etc., that is another story.
If they are not, that's the cue for you to draw the line there and then.
Nowadays, due to the 'culture' or 'norm' (or whatever reason there is) drawing the line would be difficult for people like me
but we need to start somewhere (and continuously try) to limit ourselves from excessive curiosity over unnecessary / unrelated things.
